Leadership Is A State Of Mind

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.”

John Quincy Adams

In this modern world, where everyone is competing against each other for a promotion, most of us think that leadership is about a position. A position, where you can control and manage others to make them to do their jobs.

There are people among us who would take extreme measures to make sure that other people obey and respect them as leaders. This includes blame game, being rude towards subordinates, taking credits for another person’s work and initiating or supporting gossiping. None of these bad traits are the qualities of a good leader. Your position as a leader may look good in your resume, but in real life you will not be respected.

โ€œThe challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not a bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly.โ€

Jim Rohn

Leadership is a state of mind. It’s an attitude to inspire and motivate others with or without having a top administrative or management position. A good leader lead by an example.

The qualities of a good leader are:

– Integrity

Trustworthiness

Humility

Non judgemental

Transparency

Honesty

Empathy

Confidence

Good communication skills

Good listening skill

Having a vision

Commitment

– Approachability

Adaptability

Knowledge of the subject

I believe that a leader should be confident and strong to take tough decisions but also should be empathetic and approachable. A good leader should never be judgemental about anyone and should always avoid gossips and partiality.

I also believe that juniors, subordinates or followers consider one person as their leader if they can relate that person to themselves. So, a good leader should be able to inspire and motivate others. They should set an example by practicing what they are preaching.

“A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way.”

John C. Maxwell

“The day soldiers stop bringing you their problems is the day you have stopped leading them. They have either lost confidence that you can help them or concluded that you do not care. Either case is a failure of leadership.”

Colin Powell

“The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority.”

Kenneth Blanchard

So, are you a leader by position or a leader by attitude?

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Glued

Shattered into pieces by her unkind fate,

She was in a complete disastrous state,

Called by the society as a misfit,

She was about to surrender in defeat.

Then a voice came from inside,

“There’s a lot in you that you have not tried,

Take your time to make it right,

Believe in yourself and give a good fight.”

So she picked herself up from the ground,

Every little broken pieces of her and glued,

To make it whole and beautiful again,

And made sure to put some flowers too this time which was a gain.

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What Made You Think?

What made you think that you are beautiful than others?

Is that your face and an unblemished skin which has only a few days to expire?

What made you think that you are stronger than others?

Is that the physical strength of your body which can be taken by an accident or a disease you acquire?

What made you think that you are superior to others?

Is that your status and money which all can be gone by a heavy rain or a fire?

What made you think that you are higher than others?

Is that your religion which is making you to conspire?

What made you think that you are above of any other human being in the world?

Because the day you are buried in the ground, worms will have the pleasure of eating you without any discriminations or bias.

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Grace

Walking on the beach and letting the sunlight touch my skin,

I allowed sand and water to be my kin,

While listening to the waves and watching the birds sing,

Tears rolled down as it made my heart swing.

Thinking only about all the disappointments and downs in my life,

I wasn’t being grateful to the God who gave me the life.

Then I saw a young girl selling roasted peanuts,

With dirty hands, torn clothes but she was no nuts,

Even after a dreadful long day she had her hopes high,

With love in her eyes, she walked gracefully without giving a sigh.

When she offered me her peanuts seeing me cry,

I could only stare at her and couldn’t ask why,

The beach was a place where I could find my final peace,

Instead I found God in her face and I walked back in grace in one piece.

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Pandora’s Box

Did you find the key I have lost?

As I really need it the most.

I always made sure to triple lock my doors,

And I found myself safe behind my guarded walls.

Wise men say that curiosity kills the cat,

It was just supposed to be a small talk infact,

The key was handed to me as a gift,

And I opened the Pandora’s box in swift.

It’s been several years that I’m trying to close the box,

But it outsmarts me like a clever fox,

So please tell me if you find the key I have lost,

As I really need it the most.

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Dowry – A bid for a happy marriage or even life

Dowry, a menace which is considered as an insurance for a happy married life of a woman. Sometimes, her life can be at stake if her husband or in-laws think that the dowry that they have got is not enough or not upto their status. So, why am I writing on this today?

Case 1

A final year BAMS student died in her in-laws’ house. Her parents claimed that they had given a Toyota Yaris car, 100 sovereigns of gold and more than an acre of land, as ‘gifts’ at the time of her wedding last year. But it was not enough for her husband, an Assistant Motor Vehicle Inspector as he felt that the car was not upto his status. So he used to abuse her both physically and mentally which made her to kill herself.

Case 2

A 24-year-old died after she was set ablaze, by her husband, an year after their marriage and repeated demands and torture for more dowry. He came to his wife’s parents house to take her back. He had a bottle of diesel with him which he said was to control termites. When they reached his house that poor woman was set on fire with the same bottle of diesel.

Case 3

A 25-year-old died last year after she was bitten by a snake in her bedroom which was on the first floor of the house. This was the second time she was bitten by a poisonous snake in two months, inside the house. At the time of their wedding her husband was given a huge amount of money, lots of gold and even a car. But, it wasn’t enough for him. After her family started talking about divorce, he was afraid that he would have to give all the dowry back. So he bought two poisonous snakes and left them on his wife while she was asleep. A well – planned murder, isn’t it?

The above said are three recent cases happened one after another in a state which claims to have a 100% of literacy rate in India. So, what’s happening? Where is this all education going? Where are we going as human beings? Does a woman’s life depends on how much money or financial assets she brings to her husband? Do we still have to keep doing this crime in the name of culture and traditions? Why can’t a girl and her parents say no to the marriage itself when the question of dowry comes in first place?

Only answer to this question is to stop thinking a girl child as a burden and to stop preparing her for a married life from the day she is born. For example, I was cooking one day a few years back when an old lady comes to the house and says very lovingly to my daughter to start learning how to cook. When I asked why, her answer was that she has to make her husband and his family happy. Seriously! She was only two years old at that time.

It is also really significant to give proper education to our daughters and to make them financially independent. We will have to make her brave enough to stand up for herself and to make important decisions about her life. A good education and a job will help her not to rely on others in terms of finance and thus making her self sufficient.

I have always been against dowry and I will be fighting against it till the end of my life. It’s not only because I have a daughter and I would like to give her a better place to live, but also, because it’s the right thing to do.

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Still Walking..

I’m still walking the walk I love,

Where I can feel the fresh air,

See the sunrise and the birds fly,

But where are you?

I’m still walking and taking the same paths,

Where I can smell the blooming flowers,

Touch and blow the dandelions,

But where are you?

I’m still walking on the same roads,

Where streetlights glow at night,

And I can see the moonlight,

But where are you?

I’m still walking and hoping,

That I will meet you on the same crossroad,

Where I decided to look back and found that you were watching me,

But where are you?

I’m still walking…

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Show Me…

Show me the real you,

The one I have been longing to see through,

Where the wrinkles don’t have to hide,

And the hairs don’t have to be dyed.

Show me the real you,

The one which wanted to escape from you,

Where the lies don’t have to take place of the truth,

Where your eyes can speak your mind with no greed of fruit.

Show me the real you,

The one where all your scars are a part of you,

Where I can touch and name each one of those,

And yet, you will be proud and never in your lows.

Show me the real you,

The one which has all feelings and emotions of you,

Where you don’t have to face backwards to allow the tears to come through,

And can show your strength by spreading the love in you.

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Immersion

I found myself in a lovely place,

Where a gentle breeze touched my face,

Where the mountains stood with their heads high,

And where the birds flew freely in the sky.

The river was so pure that it mirrored my face,

The grasses were so soft which reminded me to offer my prayers,

Where the sun enjoyed playing hide and seek with the clouds,

And the trees danced slowly in the wind singing their songs aloud.

Then I saw a familiar face which I love dearly,

Those eyes were speaking to me and all I wanted was a hug so tightly,

That we could breath out all our air to the atmosphere,

And release our spirits into that place that we really care.

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May Be…

We were in love when the fate decided to separate us,

Holding on end of the rope from top of the mountain,

You told me that you would never let me go,

But, when I decided to let go of myself from your life,

I just was making sure you to be safe and happy even without me in it,

But, I promised that I will be waiting for you in the next .

While falling I asked you to run as soldiers were marching towards you,

I saw you were dragged out of my sight as I was slowly closing my eyes.

I have been waiting one life after another as I promised,

Searching for you, I knew that I will recognize you,

As our souls knew each other long before that these generations could even think,

When we finally met, you had no memory of the past,

You thought that it was just another thing and could make some time pass,

May be I will have to wait hundreds of years to see the whole you again,

When you will remember the end of the rope and the hope in my eyes,

Or may be you will just listen to your soul this time.

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