Leadership Is A State Of Mind

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.”

John Quincy Adams

In this modern world, where everyone is competing against each other for a promotion, most of us think that leadership is about a position. A position, where you can control and manage others to make them to do their jobs.

There are people among us who would take extreme measures to make sure that other people obey and respect them as leaders. This includes blame game, being rude towards subordinates, taking credits for another person’s work and initiating or supporting gossiping. None of these bad traits are the qualities of a good leader. Your position as a leader may look good in your resume, but in real life you will not be respected.

“The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not a bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly.”

Jim Rohn

Leadership is a state of mind. It’s an attitude to inspire and motivate others with or without having a top administrative or management position. A good leader lead by an example.

The qualities of a good leader are:

– Integrity

Trustworthiness

Humility

Non judgemental

Transparency

Honesty

Empathy

Confidence

Good communication skills

Good listening skill

Having a vision

Commitment

– Approachability

Adaptability

Knowledge of the subject

I believe that a leader should be confident and strong to take tough decisions but also should be empathetic and approachable. A good leader should never be judgemental about anyone and should always avoid gossips and partiality.

I also believe that juniors, subordinates or followers consider one person as their leader if they can relate that person to themselves. So, a good leader should be able to inspire and motivate others. They should set an example by practicing what they are preaching.

“A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way.”

John C. Maxwell

“The day soldiers stop bringing you their problems is the day you have stopped leading them. They have either lost confidence that you can help them or concluded that you do not care. Either case is a failure of leadership.”

Colin Powell

“The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority.”

Kenneth Blanchard

So, are you a leader by position or a leader by attitude?

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A to Z Of Us!

A lot to tell about us,

But will you allow me to be honest?

Can’t you see the beauty in truth?

Deep inside I know you are good.

Each and every moment is special,

Forgive and find your purpose,

Grace is what we all need,

Heaven will bless us for all our needs.

Intelligent you are, I know but,

Joyous is that what you are searching for?

Keep your kindness and compassion,

Let your heart open and you will find what you were looking for.

Mourning for each and everything will not help,

Night always comes before the sunshine,

Out there you will find others who can help,

People who will lead you out of darkness.

Quick, the time is running out,

Reach out to others who need your help,

Start your day with a prayer in your heart,

Thinking of all the blessings you had.

Up and up you fly above the clouds,

Venting out all the negativity and be proud,

While flying above, don’t forget about the ground,

Xenial and humble you will be known,

Your unconditional love can make another person’s life,

Zen is what, in return, you will achieve.

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What Made You Think?

What made you think that you are beautiful than others?

Is that your face and an unblemished skin which has only a few days to expire?

What made you think that you are stronger than others?

Is that the physical strength of your body which can be taken by an accident or a disease you acquire?

What made you think that you are superior to others?

Is that your status and money which all can be gone by a heavy rain or a fire?

What made you think that you are higher than others?

Is that your religion which is making you to conspire?

What made you think that you are above of any other human being in the world?

Because the day you are buried in the ground, worms will have the pleasure of eating you without any discriminations or bias.

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Reasons….

Morning started with a perfect sunshine,

He smiled as he knew it was the perfect day to shine.

Forgetting all about his household chores,

He went out to work to bring some crores.

Working hard to get all the praises,

Others thought that he was so good for all the raises.

With his crooked brain as friend,

He made some cash and his greed would never end.

Making a huge leap he got a promotion,

As he showed his boss a great deal of devotion.

At night he circled around a girl in a fabolous dress,

He knew she should be someone who has a good address.

All he liked were highs because once he was in lows,

He thought everyone would love him if money flows.

He has everything now but you know what he lost,

It is his integrity and conscience which he valued once the most.

The Volcano

Once there was a beautiful place with lots of trees, plants, animals and birds. A place like heaven where the day started with the blooming flowers and chirping of birds and ended with an amazing view of sunset and the nights were so serene. A volcano too lived among them. She loved to see lives around her and was proud of the place where she was situated.

One day, the volcano was tagged as an extinct one as she had not erupted for a long time and scientists could not find any activity within her. So, people started to come to this beautiful place to see the volcano as well as to make some business out of it. Many of them who came, were not that gentle towards her or to the place which she loved. They exploited it so much that place started to ruin it’s beauty. As people thought that the volcano was extinct, they used to go nearer to her and threw stones at her. People love to tease and attack something which they think that can’t react, don’t they? It continued for a long time and what happened was unexplainable. The volcano erupted with a maximum intensity and she started to spit fire balls along with the lava and poisonous gas. The whole place was turned to ash and the lava engulfed everything, people, animals, birds, trees and plants. Nothing survived.

Now, the volcano was tagged as active. People were afraid not even to go nearer to volcano but to the place. She waited patiently because she knew that the place will be beautiful and she will be happy. After a few years, she was proud of the place again where she was situated and she lied dormant once again watching the beautiful sight around her hoping that she won’t be tagged as extinct again.

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What’s Your Status?

Clearing my exams with distinction

Looking forward to get the admission

They stopped me on my way and asked me

Hey girl, what’s your status?

Finishing my college with flying colors

Preparing myself to get my dream job and put some feathers

I found people on my way who asked me

Hey girl, what’s your status?

When I thought I found a perfect match

We could live forever with love in our hearts

But again, I was surrounded by people who asked me

Hey girl, what’s your status?

Hearing those questions all along

Starting to question myself whether I’m alone

I found the answer to that question inside me

So now, when people surround to ask me

Hey girl, what’s your status?

Looking in their eyes and standing on my ground

You know what I say, this is my status.

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I Promise You!

I promise you! Is it just one of those regular sentences that we speak or the faith and hope that we give to someone?

First story… I was on my leave a few days ago when my daughter came to ask to play with her. I was busy doing some housework so I asked her to tidy up her room. She agreed to do it but made me to do a pinky promise that I would play with her after that. After tidying up her room, she came to me and asked, “Can we play now?” and I said yes. She was jumping with excitement and joy. I could see in her eyes how happy she was that I kept my promise.

Second story… an old woman of about 83 years was admitted in the hospital. She was promised by the doctors that she could be discharged on the day. The day passed but she wasn’t discharged from the hospital as they had to do few more tests. On the second day, the doctors promised the same but nothing happened. She was sad but she waited for the next day so that she could go back to her nursing home where she loves to live with her friends. The third day’s promise and the same experience made her so angry, anxious and worried that she said why wouldn’t they say me anything if they already knew the rules and protocols before I go to my nursing home. She called her son and started crying. I had to talk to her son and clarify the matter with him but as expected he wasn’t happy. He told me that he was really disappointed on the matter that his mother was promised three days in a row that she was going to be discharged which never happened and it made her so uncomfortable and nervous.

Another one…a friend of mine told a story about a family. A man everyday promises his wife of 15 years that he would stop drinking alcohol. His wife gives him chances after chances but she doesn’t find any changes in him or in his behavior after taking alcohol. Years of physical and mental abuse makes her depressed and everytime he drinks she asks only one thing, “why can’t you keep just one promise so that we can live like a family? Why wouldn’t you take an effort to stop it as you promise me everyday?” She carries on to do her role as a mother to her two children because she loves them a lot but is completely detached from her husband as she has lost all her hope. She is now living a miserable life.

All of the above stories shows the significance of promises that we make and how we keep them. A promise gives hope to people. It makes the people to believe in other person and to have faith in them. No matter the age of the person, from a small child to an elderly person, a broken promise can break the trust on the person who made the promise and also can cause disappointment and sadness. So, before we say “I promise you!” it is really essential to think whether we can make that happen or not. If not, do not make promises because you do not break a promise instead you break a heart.

A promise made is a debt unpaid.

Robert Service

Promises are like the full moon, if they are not kept at once they diminish day by day.

German Proverb

Promises may fit the friends, but non-performance will turn them into enemies.

Benjamin Franklin

Breach of promise is a base surrender of truth.

Mohandas Gandhi

Broken vows are like broken mirrors. They leave those who held to them bleeding and staring at fractured images of themselves.

Richard Paul Evans

I believe in the sacredness of a promise, that a man’s word should be as good as his bond; that character, not wealth or power or position, is of supreme worth.

J.D. Rockefeller

It’s not what a person tells you that matters. It’s how they treat you that reveals their true feelings. Their character is revealed not by the promises they make, but by the promises they keep.

Anonymous

Promise is a big word. It either makes something or it breaks something.

Anonymous

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Am I Enough?

“Am I enough?”, it’s a question that I have asked myself several times on several occasions. If I’m not wrong most of us must have felt the same at least once in our lives. It’s a feeling of not being complete or not worthy enough for someone or something. Do you think that it is natural to feel not good enough?

What is being enough? Is it being physically healthy? Or being intelligent? Or famous? Or beautiful? Does our value as a human being depends on these external qualities which others can see? Or is it anything to do with us as an individual, as a person?

As I said earlier, this question has popped up into my mind several times. When I was going to sit for an entrance exam, when I got a job, when I got promoted, when I was getting married and when I gave birth to my child, every single time I started onto something new or fresh, I had doubted myself. I knew that it was not healthy but I couldn’t help myself there.

Being enough is a state of mind. It doesn’t depends on how our body is, how intelligent we are or how important in the society are we. It’s about trusting on ourselves, to be grateful for our lives, abilities and talents, to forgive ourselves for the mistakes that we had done and to carry on. It’s not about waiting for someone to make us whole because we already are complete and that’s how God has created us. It doesn’t depends on our age, sex, physical and mental ability or disability, color, social status, caste, religion or race. I don’t deny on the fact that we are social animals but to have someone in our lives who loves and respects us should be an addition and not a substitute. To make ourselves acceptable in the society, we don’t have to punish ourselves. There is no point in the sense of belonging with others if I don’t belong to myself.

In short, I learned that it’s really essential to know our worth because we all are complete by ourselves. If we would all know our value, there will be no place for insecurity, low self-esteem, low integrity, jealousy or rivalry and the world would be a better place.

Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.

Lao Tzu

Look well into thyself; there is a source of strength which will always spring up if thou wilt always look.

Marcus Aurelius

It is difficult to make a man miserable while he feels worthy of himself and claims kindred to the great God who made him.

Abraham Lincoln

You will never gain anyone’s approval by begging for it. When you stand confident in your own worth, respect follows.

Mandy Hale

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