Tag: #mental health

Glued

~ Joyce Mary J ~ 30 Comments 


Shattered into pieces by her unkind fate,
She was in a complete disastrous state,
Called by the society as a misfit,
She was about to surrender in defeat.
Then a voice came from inside,
"There's a lot in you that you have not tried,
Take your time to make it right,
Believe in yourself and give a good fight."
So she picked herself up from the ground,
Every little broken pieces of her and glued,
To make it whole and beautiful again,
And made sure to put some flowers too this time which was a gain.
-JMJ

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Grace

~ Joyce Mary J ~ 39 Comments 

Walking on the beach and letting the sunlight touch my skin,
I allowed sand and water to be my kin,
While listening to the waves and watching the birds sing,
Tears rolled down as it made my heart swing.
Thinking only about all the disappointments and downs in my life,
I wasn't being grateful to the God who gave me the life.



Then I saw a young girl selling roasted peanuts,
With dirty hands, torn clothes but she was no nuts,
Even after a dreadful long day she had her hopes high,
With love in her eyes, she walked gracefully without giving a sigh.
When she offered me her peanuts seeing me cry,
I could only stare at her and couldn't ask why,
The beach was a place where I could find my final peace,
Instead I found God in her face and I walked back in grace in one piece.
                    -JMJ






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Embrace to let go..
	

				

			 ~ Joyce Mary J			 ~ 17 Comments					

				

		






When sadness surrounds you,





Run to a place to find your solitude if you need to,





Shed your tears as much as you want,





But come back with a smiling heart.





When despair haunts you,





Don’t allow it to break you,





Seek help from someone, to whom you can talk to,





Speak up and find a purpose to live to.





When you feel like you are all alone,





No one you can trust is around,





Take a pen and a diary in your hands,





And write everything to let it out, my friends.





When you feel like you are overwhelmed,





Embrace it to understand,





That the time can heal any wound,





And prepare yourself to let go, my friend.





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Dowry – A bid for a happy marriage or even life
	

				

			 ~ Joyce Mary J			 ~ 30 Comments					

				

		






Dowry, a menace which is considered as an insurance for a happy married life of a woman. Sometimes, her life can be at stake if her husband or in-laws think that the dowry that they have got is not enough or not upto their status. So, why am I writing on this today? 





Case 1 





A final year BAMS student died in her in-laws’ house. Her parents claimed that they had given a Toyota Yaris car, 100 sovereigns of gold and more than an acre of land, as ‘gifts’ at the time of her wedding last year. But it was not enough for her husband, an Assistant Motor Vehicle Inspector as he felt that the car was not upto his status. So he used to abuse her both physically and mentally which made her to kill herself.





Case 2





A 24-year-old died after she was set ablaze, by her husband, an year after their marriage and repeated demands and torture for more dowry. He came to his wife’s parents house to take her back. He had a bottle of diesel with him which he said was to control termites. When they reached his house that poor woman was set on fire with the same bottle of diesel.





Case 3





A 25-year-old died last year after she was bitten by a snake in her bedroom which was on the first floor of the house. This was the second time she was bitten by a poisonous snake in two months, inside the house. At the time of their wedding her husband was given a huge amount of money, lots of gold and even a car. But, it wasn’t enough for him. After her family started talking about divorce, he was afraid  that he would have to give all the dowry back. So he bought two poisonous snakes and left them on his wife while she was asleep. A well – planned murder, isn’t it?





The above said are three recent cases happened one after another in a state which claims to have a 100% of literacy rate in India. So, what’s happening? Where is this all education going? Where are we going as human beings? Does a woman’s life depends on how much money or financial assets she brings to her husband? Do we still have to keep doing this crime in the name of culture and traditions? Why can’t a girl and her parents say no to the marriage itself when the question of dowry comes in first place? 





Only answer to this question is to stop thinking a girl child as a burden and to stop preparing her for a married life from the day she is born. For example, I was cooking one day a few years back when an old lady comes to the house and says very lovingly to my daughter to start learning how to cook. When I asked why, her answer was that she has to make her husband and his family happy. Seriously! She was only two years old at that time.





It is also really significant to give proper education to our daughters and to make them financially independent. We will have to make her brave enough to stand up for herself and to make important decisions about her life. A good education and a job will help her not to rely on others in terms of finance and thus making her self sufficient.





I have always been against dowry and I will be fighting against it till the end of my life. It’s not only because  I have a daughter and I would like to give her a better place to live, but also, because it’s the right thing to do.  





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Blinded
	

				

			 ~ Joyce Mary J			 ~ 22 Comments					

				

		






Blinded by others while growing up,





All she could do what her heart measured up.





One person made her to believe that she was ugly,





So never think of to be loved dearly.





Other one came and said she was dumb,





So it’s better for her to be mum.





Another gave her a title of incompetent,





And told her that she would not get any job as has no talent.





Blinded by all the thoughts she had,





Which was never her’s but given by the people around,





Once she decided to open her eyes,





What she saw was a woman who was perfect in God’s eyes.





Now, when she looked around she found,





All those people who made her to believe the other way around,





Were the one’s who were blinded by their own belief,





That someone can be superior to others in brief.





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Take Me…
	

				

			 ~ Joyce Mary J			 ~ 30 Comments					

				

		







Take me to that garden,
Where there is no warden,
Where I can see all those flowers,
The mesmerizing sight in different colors.
Take me to that place,
Where we can find our space,
Where the grasses are so green,
Somewhere absolutely serene.
Take me to those hills,
Where the pure air fills,
My body and my soul,
Where the fear has no control.
Take me to that beach,
Where the prophets like to give speech,
Where the sun and earth meet,
The horizon which is so sweet.
                    -JMJ







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The Panic Attack
	

				

			 ~ Joyce Mary J			 ~ 21 Comments					

				

		






She was a lady who knew what she wanted,





And only called nurses when she only doubted,





That she can do an activity by herself,





Or when she thought that can’t talk anymore to self.





One day, she pressed the callbell,





When the nurse saw her, she was panicking like hell,





“Worried about something?” the nurse wanted to know,





“Please tell me what’s the matter and don’t tell me no.”





She said, “I wasn’t afraid but I have started to fear the death”,





Reassuring her not to worry, the nurse asked, “what made you think about the death?”





“I don’t know, may be I’m just alone in this room. Can you stay here for a minute and talk to me?”,she said





“Why not”, the nurse answered.





A few days passed and she went unconscious,





Her loved ones came as she was on her way to heavens,





When she took her final breath, the same nurse was on duty,





And she saw her lying still with all her beauty.





While giving the last care all the conversations came alive,





Was it panic attack or did she know that she won’t survive?





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Shine Your Light 🕯️
	

				

			 ~ Joyce Mary J			 ~ 24 Comments					

				

		

Today, my mood was to draw something. The theme just came to my mind and I hope that you will like it.









Let your light shine










To shine your brightest light is to be who you truly are.
Roy T. Bennett





It’s that heart of gold, and stardust shine that makes you beautiful.
R.M. Broderick





Shine with all you have. When someone tries to blow you out, just take their oxygen and burn brighter.
Katelyn S. Irons





People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross





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The Conflict
	

				

			 ~ Joyce Mary J			 ~ 23 Comments					

				

		








Closing my eyes has become a nightmare,
As I can see you are still there,
In my heart and in my soul, 
Struggling with intense emotions, when I never wanted to fall.
Never thought that I would become so helpless,
You are my strength and my weakness,
These feelings are so powerful,
Oh Lord! Should I be grateful,
For this love which is so painful,
And yet, nothing has been so meaningful.
Should I save the sight?
Or shall I blow out the light?
Will my faith survive?
Or is this flame going to burn me alive?
I know all the answers deep inside,
But, how can I show it outside?
How can I calm this conflicted mind?
- JMJ






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Spring on it’s full swing
	

				

			 ~ Joyce Mary J			 ~ 26 Comments					

				

		

When nature is at it’s best, all we can do is admire it’s beauty and be grateful for all the blessings of God..





Can’t take another step… 





Flower shower





A meeting with the clouds





Rejuvenation





A view from my window





All these pictures were taken today while having a walk with my daughter on my phone. These views gave me so much joy and relaxation that I cannot explain. I hope that you will like them too.