Dowry – A bid for a happy marriage or even life

Dowry, a menace which is considered as an insurance for a happy married life of a woman. Sometimes, her life can be at stake if her husband or in-laws think that the dowry that they have got is not enough or not upto their status. So, why am I writing on this today?

Case 1

A final year BAMS student died in her in-laws’ house. Her parents claimed that they had given a Toyota Yaris car, 100 sovereigns of gold and more than an acre of land, as ‘gifts’ at the time of her wedding last year. But it was not enough for her husband, an Assistant Motor Vehicle Inspector as he felt that the car was not upto his status. So he used to abuse her both physically and mentally which made her to kill herself.

Case 2

A 24-year-old died after she was set ablaze, by her husband, an year after their marriage and repeated demands and torture for more dowry. He came to his wife’s parents house to take her back. He had a bottle of diesel with him which he said was to control termites. When they reached his house that poor woman was set on fire with the same bottle of diesel.

Case 3

A 25-year-old died last year after she was bitten by a snake in her bedroom which was on the first floor of the house. This was the second time she was bitten by a poisonous snake in two months, inside the house. At the time of their wedding her husband was given a huge amount of money, lots of gold and even a car. But, it wasn’t enough for him. After her family started talking about divorce, he was afraid that he would have to give all the dowry back. So he bought two poisonous snakes and left them on his wife while she was asleep. A well – planned murder, isn’t it?

The above said are three recent cases happened one after another in a state which claims to have a 100% of literacy rate in India. So, what’s happening? Where is this all education going? Where are we going as human beings? Does a woman’s life depends on how much money or financial assets she brings to her husband? Do we still have to keep doing this crime in the name of culture and traditions? Why can’t a girl and her parents say no to the marriage itself when the question of dowry comes in first place?

Only answer to this question is to stop thinking a girl child as a burden and to stop preparing her for a married life from the day she is born. For example, I was cooking one day a few years back when an old lady comes to the house and says very lovingly to my daughter to start learning how to cook. When I asked why, her answer was that she has to make her husband and his family happy. Seriously! She was only two years old at that time.

It is also really significant to give proper education to our daughters and to make them financially independent. We will have to make her brave enough to stand up for herself and to make important decisions about her life. A good education and a job will help her not to rely on others in terms of finance and thus making her self sufficient.

I have always been against dowry and I will be fighting against it till the end of my life. It’s not only because I have a daughter and I would like to give her a better place to live, but also, because it’s the right thing to do.

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Still Walking..

I’m still walking the walk I love,

Where I can feel the fresh air,

See the sunrise and the birds fly,

But where are you?

I’m still walking and taking the same paths,

Where I can smell the blooming flowers,

Touch and blow the dandelions,

But where are you?

I’m still walking on the same roads,

Where streetlights glow at night,

And I can see the moonlight,

But where are you?

I’m still walking and hoping,

That I will meet you on the same crossroad,

Where I decided to look back and found that you were watching me,

But where are you?

I’m still walking…

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Shine Your Light 🕯️

Today, my mood was to draw something. The theme just came to my mind and I hope that you will like it.

Let your light shine

To shine your brightest light is to be who you truly are.

Roy T. Bennett

It’s that heart of gold, and stardust shine that makes you beautiful.

R.M. Broderick

Shine with all you have. When someone tries to blow you out, just take their oxygen and burn brighter.

Katelyn S. Irons

People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

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Orphans

What did I do as it breaks my heart,

There is no one here to care me from the start.

What did I do to be so lonely?

Is there anyone here as I look for one tirelessly?

One said that his mother left him as a baby,

The other said that her parents didn’t want her, may be.

One blamed God for the accident,

Some didn’t know what had happened.

But all of them shared the same feelings,

And started to count on their blessings.

They looked after each other while growing up,

And promised one another that they will show up,

No matter how far they are by distance,

They will make sure to be there like a family, for instance.

Their love grew to their families too,

Bringing up their own children, one or two.

Dedicated to all the children around the world who live their lives as orphans.

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The Treasure..

A treasure is lost somewhere in deep.

Something so valuable that one needs to keep.

A treasure is stolen by a wicked witch.

How hard have I tried to keep it safe from the breech?

A treasure I had to give up because of the sinister disease.

Can it be a reason for me to cease?

A treasure was taken from me by the people around.

Shall I hide myself when they surround?

A treasure was vanished behind my wrinkled face.

As old I get, should I be in the loneliest place?

At last, I found out how silly I was,

To think even that the treasure was,

Taken by someone or something from outside,

As I found that the treasure was all along inside.

I started to give a smile to the mirror,

First thing in the morning when no one was nearer,

And when I stepped out of the house, I gave a smile to a crying child,

Then it occurred to me that this treasure can be shared to someone in need.

It made my day as it felt like a bliss,

The lost treasure was found on my lips.

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Spring on it’s full swing

When nature is at it’s best, all we can do is admire it’s beauty and be grateful for all the blessings of God..

Can’t take another step…
Flower shower
A meeting with the clouds
Rejuvenation
A view from my window

All these pictures were taken today while having a walk with my daughter on my phone. These views gave me so much joy and relaxation that I cannot explain. I hope that you will like them too.

A Forgotten Mother

What takes a heart to be at rest,

To not to think of all the days which were the worst.

What takes a mind not to wander to,

All the way back which were never meant to.

However I try, I can’t call them back,

It’s like they have been taken from someone in the past.

Never thought of a beautiful present turning out to be a dark pass,

A gift to hold and travel to a burning past.

Haunting memories of an innocent smile,

Blue eyes with an ocean inside,

The days were so wonderful with you on my side,

All those pictures are talking to me and tearing me from inside.

When all mothers are celebrating the day with their children by their side,

All I can hope is you are at rest with no pain to cry,

Oh my baby! I hope you are having a good time with God by your side.

Dedicated to all the mothers who lost their children.

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