As Autumn comes in it's full glory, I see all the colors from my gallery, Getting ready for the cold winter nights, Trees are preparing themselves for their annual fights. While the green leaves are turning themselves into yellow,orange,purple and red, I wonder what is going inside their heart as they are going to shed, Are they ready to let go of their mates, Or just accepting what is written in their fates? While they are having their internal conflicts, What others can see are just those beautiful sights, Where the colors of their lives comes alive in front ofour eyes, And all we can do is admire their beauty and sacrifice. -JMJ
Alone in a deep forest, Thinking about whether to protest, Against all discriminations and bias, Or to hide away and be pious. She saw innocents being crucified, Blamed and buried for something they had never tried, Powerful was taking advantage and pulling the strings, And then they claimed about their sufferings! The reality was reversed as people closed their eyes, The perpetrators said they were victimized, Now, how can she just be quiet? The perfect storm was in formation and she said to them, try it. -JMJ
You will find the greatest human spirits, In the hell's deepest pits, Where people refuse to surrender to what happened to them, And don't allow to be defined by the people around them.
There is an unrelenting human spirit in each one of us, That helps us to fight any evil forces, An undefeatable mind and a body in motion, With courage, resilience, love and compassion.
When I first found you, I thought it's good to have you, You made me believe that you helped me grow, And that you are the reason that I glow. But then as years passed by, You made your way to each and every cells of mine, Killing all the normalcy, There were times that I couldn't even clearly see. Many years passed and you became a part of me, Biting my lips I tolerated all the painyou caused to me. But now, as your toxin is spreading to my brain and affectingthe people around me, It's time to do a surgical incision and do an ectomy. -JMJ
Shattered into pieces by her unkind fate, She was in a complete disastrous state, Called by the society as a misfit, She was about to surrender in defeat. Then a voice came from inside, "There's a lot in you that you have not tried, Take your time to make it right, Believe in yourself and give a good fight." So she picked herself up from the ground, Every little broken pieces of her and glued, To make it whole and beautiful again, And made sure to put some flowers too this time which was a gain. -JMJ
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Dowry, a menace which is considered as an insurance for a happy married life of a woman. Sometimes, her life can be at stake if her husband or in-laws think that the dowry that they have got is not enough or not upto their status. So, why am I writing on this today?
Case 1
A final year BAMS student died in her in-laws’ house. Her parents claimed that they had given a Toyota Yaris car, 100 sovereigns of gold and more than an acre of land, as ‘gifts’ at the time of her wedding last year. But it was not enough for her husband, an Assistant Motor Vehicle Inspector as he felt that the car was not upto his status. So he used to abuse her both physically and mentally which made her to kill herself.
Case 2
A 24-year-old died after she was set ablaze, by her husband, an year after their marriage and repeated demands and torture for more dowry. He came to his wife’s parents house to take her back. He had a bottle of diesel with him which he said was to control termites. When they reached his house that poor woman was set on fire with the same bottle of diesel.
Case 3
A 25-year-old died last year after she was bitten by a snake in her bedroom which was on the first floor of the house. This was the second time she was bitten by a poisonous snake in two months, inside the house. At the time of their wedding her husband was given a huge amount of money, lots of gold and even a car. But, it wasn’t enough for him. After her family started talking about divorce, he was afraid that he would have to give all the dowry back. So he bought two poisonous snakes and left them on his wife while she was asleep. A well – planned murder, isn’t it?
The above said are three recent cases happened one after another in a state which claims to have a 100% of literacy rate in India. So, what’s happening? Where is this all education going? Where are we going as human beings? Does a woman’s life depends on how much money or financial assets she brings to her husband? Do we still have to keep doing this crime in the name of culture and traditions?Why can’t a girl and her parents say no to the marriage itself when the question of dowry comes in first place?
Only answer to this question is to stop thinking a girl child as a burden and to stop preparing her for a married life from the day she is born. For example, I was cooking one day a few years back when an old lady comes to the house and says very lovingly to my daughter to start learning how to cook. When I asked why, her answer was that she has to make her husband and his family happy. Seriously! She was only two years old at that time.
It is also really significant to give proper education to our daughters and to make them financially independent. We will have to make her brave enough to stand up for herself and to make important decisions about her life. A good education and a job will help her not to rely on others in terms of finance and thus making her self sufficient.
I have always been against dowry and I will be fighting against it till the end of my life. It’s not only because I have a daughter and I would like to give her a better place to live, but also, because it’s the right thing to do.
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