When I grow up..

A question which makes us anxious...

My six year old child asked me a question yesterday and it was, “Mama, when I grow up what do you want me to become?” The question was tricky for me. I first told her that whatever she likes, she can and it’s upto her. But she was not ready to leave me until I gave her a proper answer. So, I told her that I want her to become a scientist. She took a minute to think about it and then said, “you know what mama, I want to become a hairdresser because I like to make my dolls prettier” and I said “as you wish, my dear.” The smile and happiness on her face was heavenly.

As a child, I was asked the same question several times by my family members and teachers. Can you imagine how many professions I chose before becoming a nursing professional? I remember when I was a child I wanted to become a police officer. When I grew up a little more and started watching news and current affairs, I wanted to become a lawyer, an advocate for women. Then I wanted to join armed forces which was opposed by my family members. Then I thought I could become a fashion designer as I liked to draw. At last, what I have become is a nurse.

Over the years, I have found that the question “what do you want to become in your life when you grow up?” is more complex than one could imagine. When this question is asked, our mind is shaped in a way from childhood that we should only answer it by giving the name of any profession which the society accepts as a successful one. For example, doctor, engineer, nurse and teacher  are the only professions allowed in most of the Indian families till now. But, do you think that all the doctors, engineers, nurses and teachers are successful and happy in their lives? A surgeon who cannot think properly will not be able to do his surgery under stressful situation and can ultimately cause death of a person. A poor engineer may be the reason for the collapse of a building or a bridge. A bad nurse won’t be able to give a compassionate and quality care to the patients and a teacher can destroy the whole generation of students by poor teaching.

I believe that the question, what should we do in our future, should not make us anxious or nervous instead it should make us happy. It should be a passion, a drive and should motivate us to work hard to achieve our goal. I also believe that all we need in our lives are inner peace and happiness and the rest will come along. So, what we need is a change in our mindset that only certain professions can make us successful and stop feeding our anxiousness regarding the career to our future generations.

I’ve learned that making a ‘living’ is not the same thing as ‘making a life’.

Maya Angelou

The crowning fortune of a man is to be born to some pursuit which finds him employment and happiness, whether it be to make baskets, or broadswords, or canals, or statues, or songs.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.

Confucius

Find out what you like doing best and get someone to pay you for doing it.

Katherine Whitehorn

Be true to what naturally interests you – and be brave enough to turn an obsession into a profession.

Shelly Branch

If we all did the things we are capable of doing,we would literally astound ourselves.

Thomas Edison

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15 thoughts on “When I grow up..

  1. Yes, I was asked many times of this question too. The limited choices that many people desire for their children actually lead to a lot of psychological issues, family tensions, and even tragedies. I’ve witnessed a lot in this aspect and wish that people can be more flexible. I think the worst nightmare for a parent is hearing that their talented kid wants to be a starving artist, not going for a profession with a stable income. That’s tough.

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  2. Yes, you are absolutely right. In most of the cases, only choices that the parents give in my native place is either medical or engineering. I think that it is a stressful situation for all those poor kids.

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    1. I will be honest Lokesh. At first, it was difficult. But as the years passed, I saw a lot of people. I was able to touch a lot of life. Now I work somewhere where the people are mostly in their end stages of their lives. They tell their life stories and share their experiences to me which are really insightful. So, I love my job now.

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